photo and text by:  Aria E. Appleford (http://neoscii.blogspot.com/)


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Habits are difficult things. We are creatures of habits. We do the things we do because we like them, and most of us, even faced with the critical information about the need for change, would rather follow the habit, than live …

I came to a deep understanding of this when I met and worked with Dr. Ted Kalogris of the WHO and he talked about feeding the world. He pointed out that sending in food that people do not normally eat, has a history of sitting in warehouses and rotting .. . So sending "corn" to Asia when they are looking for rice … is not a good way to feed the starving masses. I had always assumed that hungry people would eat anything … evidently not necessarily so.

Throughout the years I have noted how many people refuse to change their lives even though they go through rituals of "trying." The fact they cannot even be honest with themselves that they want to keep smoking, for example, is a good indication they will not be successful in their efforts to quit.

For many people delaying gratification is a life long struggle, something we are seeing in more and more kids. They know something is wrong, they are aware of the consequences, but they are unable to deny themselves the activity when it is presented to them in the moment. They will "deal" with the consequences later. This of course, involves a discipline that was much easier to teach before the world turned into an economy of "instant gratification." In fact, there are studies done that show the most intelligent children are those who are able to delay gratification (having to do with not taking the candy in front of their face when told to wait and then giving them the opportunity to sneak the candy by leaving them alone). It of course comes down to discipline … Self-discipline!!

Becoming addicted to something is never just about the substance (nicotine, alcohol, etc) it is also about the chemistry the brain releases with habits .. all habits, even the "non-addictive!" We become addicted to that chemistry as well, which makes breaking a habit both harder ... and easier - if you use that information to help you understand yourself. You have to understand the thinkings and feelings associated with the addiction and address these. Jose Silva teaches us how to do that with his methods.

In the movie What the Bleep do we Know - Joseph Dispenza says "neurons which fire together, wire together." This means that all the parts of the experience, including our thoughts and feelings, add to the experience and create the pleasure we want to recreate - thus a habit is formed. We can pull apart the wirings, and by repeated effort, and patience, new practices can be put into place. Once again .. The secret is to go within self, become a student of you, and use what you learn!

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