The Greatest Distance


photo and text by Aria E. Appleford (

"Our lives improve only when we take chances – and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves." Walter Anderson.

I know of no better way to do that than to work daily with the methods introduced by Jose Silva.


Dany French


Taking risks is difficult. In order to get what we want, we have to lay it all on the line. If you want love, you have to open up to someone and love them, without ever knowing if the feelings will be reciprocated. If you are an artist, you produce and put it out there, not knowing if anyone will like it or deem it to have value. When you apply for a job, you must step up and put your name forward, risking being rejected. It is too comfortable where we are, and many of us want guarantees before we make a move and open ourselves up to the possibility of rejection. Life is not like that. Risk nothing, and you have nothing.

You can’t, and won’t, take risks unless you know yourself. Knowing yourself, leads to being able to ask for what you want. Asking for what you want, leads you to getting it. That is how life works. Learning to take risks and eliminate fear and anxiety, leads you to the kind of opportunities you dream about. Just remember, when you start piling up all the possibilities that might happen, and therefore you don’t want to take the leap – remember you DON’T KNOW what the outcome will be. Until you do, there is no sense speculating. It could just as easily work out well! Funny how our "futurizing" almost always considers the negative. Deal with life as it presents itself.

Taking a risk may cause temporary pain, we may not get the thing we are hoping for, but often we still gain in that we learn and we grow. If we never take a chance we may stay safe, but we are in a box devoid of life. The thing to remember is, you lose far more by not risking than you gain, if you do. The world is full of people curled up within themselves, held in the cocoon of protection, dying for a want to "bloom." That is the most painful life experience of all. I have always said, “The greatest distance in the world will be the one we are forced to confront at the end of our lives when we finally face all that we were in this life, see what we might have been, and consider the distance between the two.

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