Let Go Of Your Attachment to the Outcome.


by: Aria E. Appleford (http://neoscii.blogspot.com/)

I love the movie “Peaceful Warrior” where injured gymnast Dan Millman speaks of his love of gymnastics and just wanting to be able to do what he loves. He works hard and makes an attempt to be readmitted to the Olympic team only to be turned down. His ensuing disappointment sets him to question the purpose of his efforts and to wonder what life is about .. he had done everything his spiritual guru had instructed and still did not achieve his dream.

His saged guru simply asked him what winning an Olympic medal had to do with anything … Dan was doing gymnastics every day and that should be enough reward in itself. He said “You do not need the gold medal to do what you love.” He was speaking about letting go of attachment to the outcome.

We seem to be always looking for outward approval and validation of what we do instead of just doing what needs to be done and enjoying the process. It is not the achieving of the end that is the teacher … it is always the process itself. If we could only understand that, we would cease to focus on winning/losing or right/wrong and instead accept that all of life is valid to us in that we learn and grow from experience, regardless of the outcome.  I think that is what Jose Silva was getting at when he suggested that we take the time to examine what we were asking for to make sure it was the best outcome.  The process we repeat in Silva Ultramind brings that into focus in both the planning and in the reflection - so important in our personal development.

Focussing only on the goal or the outcome makes it more difficult to adapt to the many changes life presents. Goals are good in that they help us identify the direction we are heading but after they achieve that initial push, we should sit back and take in everything that is happening in the here and now. These are the moments where we will gain the most. It is like deciding you are going to get a job so that you can afford to buy a car. In the end the car is bought and most people hold that up as evidence they are worth something. However, what was learned in the process of finding, obtaining, and keeping a job as well as the practices of saving money... will far outlast the value of the car. Gaining those lessons have more to do with defining a person than what kind of car they drive ever can or will.

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